I would much rather have no father in my life at all than an inconsistent one. It sounds harsh, but honestly I don't care. He was never around during my childhood which I think is the most important part of your life. I feel as if it molds you into who you are today, and he was never here. I graduated high school, turned 18, and moved to a city to attend college where he lived. Prior to that, I always claimed that I never needed him. I never knew him so why would that change, right? Letting him in my life was a decision I sometimes wish I didn't make. I hurt myself thinking he'd be there for me when I needed him. I think little me still mourns a father figure she never got and just let her guard down. I ended up moving away and I'm so happy I did. But now, I only hear from him on holidays. It's never calls either, just texts. I hate it so much. I was told one time that "phones work both ways" but seriously? Who is the father here?? I was not asked to be here, it was never my responsibility to provide a life for him. It will NEVER be my responsibility to be the bigger person because HE is the father. I would say the term "dad" but he doesn't deserve that. I wish everyone has the chance to know and experience both their mothers' and fathers' love. God knows maybe I would be a healed person.